STAND ON IT

Tory Lanes Appeal, 6ix9ine SWV, Xscape, Bravo, Queens of R&B, Tamika Scott, Latocha Scott, Kandi, Tiny Harris and much more!

Sound off - Stand on it and stand on something. We talk about loving yourself and what that looks like. 

Transcript

Suggah Na: You already know who it is. It's your girl, Shake. And I'm back with the Nissan Sugar podcast. I want to thank everybody who's been listening to the podcast since it's been back. I have dropped two episodes so far. Episode eight, which is She's Back and episode nine, who is nat Cruise Music. Please make sure you guys tune into those episodes. Also next week, I'm dropping episode eleven featuring big sheets and y'all do not want to miss that. Alright? So we gonna roll right into this thing. So I have a few topics for you guys this week. However, the first one, I just want to say it and get it out the way. Tori Lanes filed for an appeal. I really don't care about that trial no more. You all, that trial really ran me down. That trial was just too much back and forth. Maybe this, maybe that. I'm so sick of it. Once he got convicted, Megan got her justice. All right, that's it. Now they bring him back into the news because he's filing an appeal. Of course he would. He might lose, he might not. I really don't give a **** no more. The only way I'm going to report this to you all or tell you all about it is if some big **** happened, like he actually gets out. Now if he gets out. I don't know. I don't know. I like Tori Lane's music a little bit. So, I mean, I wouldn't mind if he escaped from jail and made like a little mixtape, like a chicks tape. Well, he owned four. Now. If he made like a little chicks tape four and then got back, put back in jail, I wouldn't be mad. I'm not even going to lie. But Toy Lanes filed for an appeal. We don't really care. By six nine got beat up. 69 got beat up. And that just is what it is. It was what it was. He got beat up. Somebody finally called him. A lot of people were talking about that. It probably was a set up. Like he paid them and made it look like he got just beat up because he didn't have no security with him. He just went to the gym by himself. Why would such a big star go to the gym by themselves? Which is true, but not Tory Lane. 69 talks a lot of ****. So it very much is believable that he got caught slipping like somebody saw him. Six Nine don't talk about people personally. He always goes at celebrities. So he might have said something wrong about one of their favorite rappers and they caught him in the gym bathroom. I'm not going to lie. If that was a set up, he got beat the **** up. They stomped him out a little bit. I'm not going to lie. Like Six Nine got drugged a little bit. And it's well deserved because Six Nine really runs his mouth and he runs his mouth as if he didn't do anything wrong in the public opinion. And he very well might not care about the public opinion, which is fine. It is so fine. But we don't really **** with you like that. Next. So the big news this week was, or as far as celebrity gossip, is SWv and Escape. They have a show on Bravo where they're trying to come up with, like a one night show or a tour. I'm not very clear on that one, but they're trying to do that, and there's a whole bunch of drama in each group. Well, let me correct myself. There's a whole bunch of drama in Escape, and then there's drama with Escape and SWv. Like group versus group. The drama and escape is between Tamika Scott and her sister Latasha Scott. They going back and forth about Latasha and her husband stealing Tamika's money because Tiny Ti's wife, her mom, signed them up for some type of royalty program for their music. And their first couple of checks were kind of big because they just had signed up, and that program had been around for years. So they had what is it called? Restitution? No, what's that word? It's an R word. Retro pay. Retro pay. So I guess that is what was going on. And supposedly Tamika Scott's checks the address got changed, they got sent to Latasha house, they got deposited into Latasha's husband's account, and Tamika just dropped a video on YouTube. I believe her YouTube page is the real Tamika Scott. She just dropped a video on her YouTube page and she dropped receipts, *****. She dropped receipts. See, Latasha was, oh, if you got proof, drop the receipts. Indeed, indeed. And then Tasha went on live after all that ****, came out crying, told me she want to talk to her sister and yada, yada, yada. But her sister and the other members of Escape were going on radio trying to promote the show, and they talked to Tasha and they all said, no, she changed her number. So why all of a sudden when your sister dropped these receipts and you're trying to drop a gospel album because you got signed to Motown Gospel, why now do you want to talk to your sister? Is it because you try and keep them church folk happy? If you are, you are just as fake as the rest of them church people. And I know this might get a ruffle, a little bit of feathers, but I don't give a ****. Church folks are some of the most hypocritical people I've ever met in my life. How the **** are you cursing all week? You cussing these kids out, you cussing people out at your job. You cussing your husband out. You just a cusser. But on Sundays, you wake up and you play gospel music and go to church and don't cuss at all and do all things holy under the sun. But yet, Monday through saturday, you are acting like a heathen. But on Sunday, that is the day that you put on your Sunday's best. You walk up in that church and you act fake. I have not met in my life personally, I have not met one church person that I was like, okay, they're genuinely in love with the Lord. They do everything right. They really believe the Bible. They live by the Bible. They've done their research. Like, they really are honoring and respecting this religion. Because I really don't like when we talk about Christian people being hypocrites, because it is disrespectful to those Christians that actually do live a Christian life Sunday to Sunday. They don't curse all week and then stop cursing on Sunday. Like, they literally don't curse at all. They go to Bible study on this day, or it don't even matter about all the extra ****. A good Christian person, to me, is just somebody who does lives by the things that they expect others to live by. You live by the Bible day in and day out. Cool. However, the reason why I was saying that is because Latasha Scott, your sister, said that you stole $30,000 from her, and you didn't want to talk to her because you said she was lying. You and your husband told her, Drop the receipts. Do this, do that, right when your sister dropped said receipts, now you on Live crying like, I just won't talk to my sister, and we all go through *****. Shut up. We're not *****. I'm sorry, girl. It's a term of endearment. But Latasha, girl, shut up. Shut up. And if anybody buys this fake bullshit of you now wanting, it's a family issue. It should be handled behind closed doors. No, it should be handled how it's being handled in the ******* public. You wasn't treating your sister right while it was being handled behind closed doors. Behind closed doors, you was walking all over your sister. But now that she brought it to the light and she stood on something because that's the topic of this episode. Stand on something. Stand on it right now that your sister stood on something. She stood on her morals and her values. Now you want to cry talking about, I've been trying to reach out. I've been trying to take no. I need you all to understand that people get to a point where they almost ******* hate you and not like that. They don't love you. Because, for example, that's her sister. She loves her sister for the fact that that is her sister. However, the pain is deeper because that is my sister and her husband. She allowed her husband also to be a part of stealing my money. At the time, they said Tamika was pregnant with her youngest daughter. She was, like, struggling a little bit. Like the money from the music wasn't coming in how it used to. So it's like, that is a deeper hurt than anything else. My own sister knows that I'm struggling and that I need my money, but yet **** got flipped around, and she stole my ******* money. You're my sister, and you stole my money. And you think that I'm going to forgive you as easy as I will forgive somebody else? No. That pain, that hurt. That betrayal is way deeper than just a stranger doing it. It'll be one thing, for example, it'll be one thing if Candy or Tiny did that to her. Yes, she's going to be ******, but she's going to get her money back. One and two, it's not going to hurt that bad because, yeah, they're her group members, but they're not her sister. Right, tasha, you are her sister, and you allowed your husband to sign his name on her checks and deposit them into her account. Because there's no way that anybody is going to tell me that Latasha did not know and Latasha did not benefit from that money. Let's say Latasha ain't have a hand in it at all. Like, she didn't file no paperwork. She didn't even see the check. Her husband just said what he was going to do, and she said, that's my sister. I don't really want to be a part of that. Whatever. Right? That's still bad, because that's your sister. You allowed your husband to do something like that for your sister. And also, like I said, it makes it worse if you were a part of changing the address to get the check signed sent to your house, I think the checks were getting sent also to the mom's house. And then they switched the address, and then the mom, when they recorded it, when they started recording it on the show, the mom telling the camera, guys, cut them cameras off. Oh, you don't want to talk about it in front of the people. That's because their mom knew that they probably gave the mom some of that check, too, because if you all watch that show, it's on Bet. It's called escape. SWv and escape. No, it's on Bravo, *****. Wow. It is on Bravo. It's on Bravo. Bravo. Bravo. Bravo. Yeah. It is not on BT. It's on Bravo. It's SW and escape. Queens of RMB or something like that. I think it's episode two that mom got so mad and was yelling, telling the cameraman to get out of her house, telling her daughter Tamika to be quiet. You hurting your sister. Why would you say something like that about your sister? Like, okay, I'm a mother, right? But I only have one child now. But if I had multiple children, girls, especially if one of my daughters said, especially my youngest daughter, if one of my daughters said, hey, mom, so and so stole my money, I'm digging in my other daughter's ***. But I'm also going to do my research. I'm not just going to believe the words and not try to I'm like, you have proof. Like, how do you know this? But even if she doesn't have solid proof, I'm going to trust my child's feeling, because in real life, I trust my feelings. So I'm a raise them to trust your feelings. Because even if there's nothing physical for you to look at to prove how you feel, you're feeling that energy for a reason, right? So the way the mom should have done it was her daughter's coming to her, telling her, like, hey, your other daughter stole my money and her husband. It wasn't just her. It was her husband, too. You sitting here talking about Dane Do. That that's a good man. And all this old school black mother stuff, honestly, it's that stereotypical black, old school church. Mom, a man is the number one thing that you can have in life. Children are your greatest accomplishments. I'm so glad that we are entering times where the millennials are taking the **** over and we're letting you all know that's bullshit. If I'm not ******* married by the time I'm however old, it doesn't make me less of a companion, right? I'm holding out on getting married because these ****** don't deserve me, period. I'm not holding out looking for the perfect man that provides. And that's just the perfect man. He provides for his family. No, *****, I'm looking for a ***** to respect me, provide for me, and help me build this empire. Right? Just because he go to work and come home don't mean he a good man, savannah okay? A man who go to work and come home. In the meantime, in between time, them ******, they be the ones that got 2nd, third, four families down the street. You think that ***** at work? No, he took PTO off for the week to go spend time with Ms. Jenkins down the street. That's what era their mother is a part of. Multiple families. But the ****** went to work and came home and gave them money and provided for them. Because the way that lady hates her daughter and the way she brought up, oh, I'm the fifth member of Escape. I would have told my mom I'm leaving like, I'm leaving. You are talking foolishness. You are saying the dumbest **** I've ever heard in my life. I love you, but I'm out. I can't hear that. And I'm so glad. When Tamika had a conversation with her mother later on, or it might have been that same episode, she just told her, like, Mom, I love you, but I got to pull back. And I'm going to talk about that later because I just had that same conversation with a very close friend of mine. But let me wrap up this Latasha and them ****. I wasn't even expecting to talk about them this long, but, yeah. Tasha girl, pay your sister back, okay? She didn't drop receipts. It's proof your husband is a cheating son of a *****. And it is what it is. If you're going to stay with them, you're going to stay with them. While Natasha was on ******* Instagram Live crying about Call me SIS, I just want to talk to my sister. I wish you all would let us blah, blah, blah, blah behind closed doors. Shut up, Tasha. Because now your husband got you out here looking so ******* stupid that he made, like, the fact that he cheated on you so much, and there's receipts coming out because you're in the limelight now. Your husband made you look so ******* foolish that you got on Instagram Live and admitted that you all had an open relationship. Baby, please. That don't add up. Open relationships mean that if you see my husband out with somebody else, don't ******* tell me, because I know he's out with that *****. And we have an agreement. I told him he can go out with her. I didn't feel like sucking **** today, so he can go out with her. Okay, that is an open relationship where you know what your partner is doing for real, like, it's no secrets, because you're both doing your own thing. It's just an open line of communication. Why would a mistress in a side piece come out and say she's been pregnant by your husband this many times? And your husband called Tasha Kay and was saying how it's a legal matter now, and how is it a legal matter? And why are you suing? How is she a mistress if you all have an open relationship? See, me. I'm not one of them people that you can just hit with the okey doke, or you could just say anything too. *****. I analyze everything. I analyze the way you say stuff. I analyze how you broke up your sentence. I analyze when your eye cocked to the side because you was thinking about something. Why did you pause at that point? I really analyze people and their behavior. I wanted to be a psychiatrist, and I love abnormal psychology, so I really analyze people. Right? So I was analyzing that situation, and I'm just like, that doesn't make any ******* sense. Now you all have an open relationship. And then she tried to make it sound good by saying, we've been together for almost 30 years, but me and my husband have an open relationship. So you all explain to me in what church is an open marriage acceptable? What Christian church is an open marriage acceptable? Where in the Bible does it say, when you get married, you and your husband can both **** other people? Tasha, answer quickly. Thank you. Okay. Your husband has you looking like a ******* idiot. And that goes back to why us millennial women, and also women of other generations, but primarily starting this movement, us millennial women. Baby, I'm not settling for ****. I'm not staying for nothing. You marry me, that means you made the conscious decision that you will respect me and honor me and love me for the rest of your ******* life. Granted, being together almost 30 years, **** gets stale. **** gets old. The flame goes out. We know that. However, at the very end of the day, we're going to choose love, and we're going to rock this thing out. And I'm also not going to look, not going to ******* tell my friends and family that they say, oh, they saw so and so with a girl at the mall, and I didn't know he was with said girl at the mall. Then I go do my research, and I found out this ***** was pregnant by him, and he did all this other stuff. And instead of me saying, oh, I ain't know none of that, like, what? Hold up. Let me get with my household, because what the **** is going on? Instead of you doing that, Tasha, you said we have an open marriage. An open marriage doesn't mean a ***** is going to come out and say, oh, he blocked me and he said he was going to leave his wife. That's not what an open marriage is. An open marriage means any ***** I get on the side. Like, for me, I'm a woman, and I like men. So you see, I said, like, not love, because they begin on my ******* nerves. But me as a woman, I like men. So that's like me having a side ****** and my husband finding out about it. And then I tell the public, oh, no, we have an open relationship. But he was mad as **** when he first found out about it. Tasha, that stung. That stung. And I understand, baby, because that's something that will sting. And if you hurt from that, we all understand, and we got you. However, don't let no man have you so ****** up in the head and so brainwashed that he cheats on you, but then he convinces you to tell the world that you all have an open marriage. Baby, the very next headline should have been, latasha Scott Files for Divorce from Rocky Bivens. That should have been the next ******* headline the day after all that, he made you look ******* stupid publicly. See, that is really what will make me leave a *****, especially on a level like Latasha Scott. Especially on her level. My husband got me out here looking stupid. Baby, I'm out. *****, you dumb. Do you know what the **** you just ****** up? You ain't want me no more? That's cool, baby. I'm making it so much easier for you to walk the **** away. You all need to stand on something. I'm telling you. You all need to stand on something. Latasha Scott, stand on something. Your sister finally stood on something. And now I bet you Tamika Scott feels like, ****** because she had to do all this in the public eye. But there's a deep place in Tamika that feels relieved. There's a weight lifted off her shoulder, her chest doesn't feel heavy and she just finally is able to lay in her bed and breathe. Seriously, I really feel like that was very hard for her to do, is drop receipts. Proven that her sister and her sister's husband stole money from her. However, baby, my sister steal $30,000 from me. I'm either going to **** her up or I'm going to sue her. And I might do both. I might do both. ****, I'm going to **** you up and then sue you. Or I might get somebody else to do it. But yeah, shout out to Tamika Scott. I'm so glad that you found your voice and you stood on something and you told your sister, stop antagonizing me and stop playing with me. You and your husband keep denying these allegations when we both know it's the truth. You playing in my ******* face, SIS. And now checkmate, ************. Now what can you say now after Tamika dropped the receipts, you crying online, talking about you want to talk to your sister. Your sister was trying to talk to you. You ain't give her your number. You changed it. Member. Member. I hope this whole situation makes Tasha look at herself and just realize that she might have changed or there's just certain things that she mentally she processes in a different way that to others, she was being a ***** or something like that, or she wasn't doing right, or she didn't see the light. Latasha, find the light soon, baby, please, because we love to hear you sing. Your voice is beautiful. Them runs you do are my favorite. However, as a person, you will have ****** up. I'm not going to lie, girl, I hate that. Nowadays they're having reality shows and **** about celebrities because getting to know, like seeing how some of these celebrities are as people, it's like, yo, that *****. I love her music, but she's a *****. She is a bad ******* person. All right, for an example, I just talked about Tory Lanes filing his appeal, right? Most of you all canceled Tory Lanes for what he did to Megan Nastallion. He got convicted for it. He's in jail now, okay? However, I could separate the person from their music. I love Tori Lane's music. I love his music. As a person, I feel like he's an egotistical *******, a little ******* firecracker leprechaun, but I love his music. I can appreciate his craft. That's one thing I can say is I wouldn't be mad if Tory Lanes broke out of jail just to make another chicks tape and then they found him and put him back in. But we got that music. I want music. Just like with R. Kelly. I love his music. He is a ******* pedophile, but I love his music. I would never buy another piece of R. Kelly album again. However, if I'm going to already have the album bought and he already benefited off of the money, *****. He's in jail now for the rest of his life, okay? Me listening to his music, what the **** is that going to benefit him? He going to get an extra couple of noodles from his comments. Everything like, girl, Aura Kelly is in jail, okay? Aura Kelly is probably not getting out till he's about 70. Aura Kelly is done for. I don't think R. Kelly can get out of jail and make new music today and get the same. People are going to look at him like he don't lost his ******* mind. Now you have them brainwashed people that's like, no, his music is amazing. He's an amazing musician. And just because they love his music and he is an amazing musician, they think that he's also a good person. No, somebody can be ****** up, but make some good ****. Please don't tell me that you all don't know this. You all know that somebody can be ****** up as a person. Their morals and values are ****** up, but they could draw. They could draw their *** off. How many ******* tattoo artists do you all ******* know? I feel like every tattoo artist that I've met, they have a little bit of ******* in them. They're a little rude. They're rude. My most recent tattoo, tat guy that did my I have butterflies behind both of my ears. And I also have some lady's head on my arm with some flowers. It was cute. I still love it, but that's the best way for me to describe it. I don't have no significant meaning besides the blue flowers rip to my baby Marcus. That's why I got the blue to honor my boyfriend, because he was a crypt. So, yeah, gang ties. But yeah, when I first met him, he gave me a little ******* vibes. But with me, I'm an ******* as well. So I don't take it personally and it doesn't upset me. However, every tattoo artist I've met is an ******* with some great skills. So I say that to say, let's stop acting like just because you love somebody's music doesn't mean that they can't also be a ****** out in public like *******. Just recently, what's his name? Jonathan Majors. Jonathan Mathers. You all know who I'm talking about from lovecraft. Country. And he just did creed three with Michael B. Jordan. He'd just be his girlfriend to **** up. Great actor, handsome man. But he puts his hands on women. And there's like people on Twitter were saying that he has a history of anger issues and abusing people. Great work professionally, but personally he's a ********. So that is where you, as the consumer of the content, whatever it is, have to be able to separate the person from their craft. For example, my favorite rapper is Meek Mill. Meek Mill does corny **** often. To me, it's corny. Okay. That's still my favorite rapper, though, because I can separate him personally. From his music. Now, would I want to hang out with Meek and be in a section with him? **** yes, because I feel like I would have a good time, but as far as trying to be around and be part of his circle and be he'd be doing corny ****. And I would tell him, I'd be like, bro, don't do that. That was corny. I'm like that with my friends in real, real life. So I'm going to be like that with whoever I meet moving forward in life. And I'm getting older, so I'm really going to stand on what I say because I have the experience to feel how I feel. Now, don't get me wrong. As you get older, you can change. Your views could change because you get more information and stuff like that. That's how it's supposed to happen, right? However I say it with the **** I say it, period. Now, I don't talk about them too long. That I don't even want to talk about candy versus Tamar. Candy versus Tasha candy. It's Candy versus every ******* body. Yet Candy the one with the most ******* bread. So what's up? If I chose to be anybody in this situation, I'll be Candy. I don't give a **** what you all saying about me. *****, what's up? Look at my bag, though. My bag speaks for itself. I might be a *****. I might be a ho. I don't give a **** what you think of me. In your head, the image that you got, but less state facts and something that's undeniable. *****, I got bread. I got money. I don't give a ****. And that goes for anything. I'm not just talking about Candy. I'm really talking about myself. For real. I don't give a **** what you all think about me. I don't give a **** what y'all say about me. My work ethic and my bag is undeniable. The facts are the facts, sweetie. Ching. Baby, please. I don't care what nobody got to say about me. Plus, I'm low key, so no one really could say anything about me besides that I'm a *****. And I'm probably ignorant or something like that. However, and ignorant in the way of not the true definition of not knowing. Ignorant like how we use it in slang, like rude. However, I don't give a **** because I'm a good *** friend. I'm a good *** ******* human being. I might not be a nice person all the time, but I'm respectful. I am going to respect you because I want you to respect me. And we're going to get into that later when I talk about the main topic, stand on something. But what's next? Okay, so we're going to get a little deep. We're going to get a little deep. And I'm sorry. However, it is what it is, and we got to talk about it. This school shooting that just happened, I have a whole podcast episode. About school shootings and what else I talk about. Please go listen to that episode. I believe it's episode four, and it's titled America is a **** Show. And everything that I said in that ******* video about the Uvlade uvald, I don't know how to say that word about that shooting down in Texas still applies. And I have the same opinion about this shooting that just happened with this Audrey Hale person. Now people are getting ******* lost in the facts because they want to say, oh, it was a transgender woman. It was making this a sexuality and gender identity type of argument. Lgbtqia plus type of argument. *****, no. This ************ went into a school and killed kids and other people and school staff. Most importantly, that person made the conscious decision to go into that ******* school and kill children. That ***** looked at a child and ******* shot them with an assault rifle. I think that's what the ***** went in there with because it sure as hell wasn't no handgun. That ***** shot through them school glass and big *** glass doors. She shot through that ****. So she has some big **** on her or him. I don't even ******* care about the ************'* pronouns. And I don't care who the hell gets mad because that ***** don't deserve no ******* respect for me to respect her pronouns. And she walked into a ******* school and shot up children. *****, you think I'm going to care about her wanting to be called a heat? I don't give a **** at that point because she didn't give a ****. Okay? So I want you all to comment, and I want you to go ahead and be angry to LGBT, like, you know, people who really think that I should still respect that person's pronouns, although they went into all that pronoun **** went out the ******* door the minute she made the conscious decision to go in there. The school shooter down in Texas last year, that ************ was a man identified as a man. I talked about him just as bad as I'm talking about this ************. So pronouns and **** don't get it ****** up. I'm not being disrespectful because I don't care about that topic in general. I'm being disrespectful to that person because they kill children. Now out in regular life, if I meet someone and they say they go by they them, he, she, or I said he, she, him, he, she, her. You all know what I'm trying to say. If they told me like, hey, these are my pronouns, I will respect them in a day to day setting. I respect everyone and their pronouns. However, the day you decide you want to shoot up a school or shoot up a grocery store, *****, I don't give a **** about your pronouns. You are now pronounced dead *****. Pronounce that I'm supposed to respect her ******* pronouns. She went in a ******* school and killed kids come on, y'all. Y'all lost, like, stand on something. And I'm standing on the fact that that ***** made the conscious decision to kill people that day. Okay? Anyway, speaking of that, I don't even think they know why she went in there. She got killed. Speaking of her getting killed, shout to Officer Rex. That ***** went in there and meant business. They checked them rooms. They saw her, and he lit her to **** up. He lit that ***** to **** up. And that's exactly what you're supposed to do. And then the ************ is going to run over to her and say, stop moving. Get your hand away. But that ***** is gone. That ***** is in hell with her father. And by her father, I mean Satan. But I was seeing people. The reason why I went off like that about the pronouns, I saw people on social media saying that, oh, they identified as blah blah. Who gives a ********** what the ***** identifies as? She is identified as deceased. Now, come on, y'all. For real. For real. That is the bigger picture here is the fact that her pronouns weren't used correctly. I don't give a ****. I didn't do enough ******* research on her pronouns to know if she wanted to be called her she or him or they them. I don't give a ****. It's a ************ to me at this point. It's a dead son of a *****. And as it should, shout out to Officer Rex, he lit that ***** the **** up. And I know that some people don't like those videos because it's graphics, somebody getting shot, somebody dying. I really enjoyed watching that. I'm not going to lie. I really enjoyed watching that video because it just gave me a sense of relief. I'm glad the threat is taken down. What do they call it in the military? The threat is neutralized. And them kids don't like that *****. Really ******* traumatized those children and those people. The staff in that school. She shot her way into the ******* school and just went on a rampage. I'm glad she didn't kill more people than she killed, but I wish she never killed anyone at all, right? But just imagine how traumatized those ******* kids are going to be probably for the rest of their life. They're going to need therapy. You hear guns going off in your school. All of them planned on just going to work or going to school that day and returning home to their family. Some of those kids, some of that staff did not return home to their family. So once again, I don't give a **** that the ***** wants to be called he, him, she, her. I don't give a ****. It's a ************, and it's a dead son of a *****. Like I said earlier, I really can't believe people were in the comments. I think it was like TMZ instagram. You know, the type of people that follow TMZ, but they were in the comments talking about oh, that's not the pronouns that they want to see. I don't give a ****. That ***** is pronounced dead. I'm done with the topics. I'm done with the topics because I'm just done. Let's get on to this week's sound off. All right, so I'm going to get into this week's sound off. So this episode is titled Stand on It. So that's what this Sound off is about. I need you all to stand on something. I need you all to stand on ******* something. Lately, I've just been around people or I've been seeing on social media or hearing stories. You're just not standing on nothing. Who are you for real, and what do you want out of life? Stand on something. And I'm not saying that you're supposed to know that fresh out of high school. You're supposed to know that from birth. No, we go through life so that we can figure out who the **** we are and what we want to do. Right? But there's a lot of people that I've been seeing personally. We almost 30 years old. What the **** are you all doing? What are we doing? It's not about going out and this, this and that. No, more like, what's up? What's the real **** that we bought to do with our life? Like, what is our 30s going to be like? We going on vacation. We buying houses. We getting new cars. We expanding our business. What are we doing? We almost 30 years old. I'm at the point in my life where I'm not about to be around no bullshit intentionally. Now, if I'm out somewhere and bullshit happens to happen, I'm not going to lie. I like a little bit of drama. So I'm going to sit there, and I'm going to watch them be nosy, especially if it don't have nothing to do with me. I'm going to be nosy. I'm not going to lie. I'm going to be nosy. However, I'm not going to put myself in no drama. I'm not going to mind you all business, nothing. I'm going to mind my business, and I'm a stand on me minding my business, and I'm going to ******* just observe from a distance. However, okay, I just had a serious conversation with a very close friend of mine this weekend, and it was one of them girl talks, them deep girl talks where we both ended up crying, right? I wouldn't say crying, but we both teared up. Like, I looked her in her face and said, *****, you are one of my favorite people. And do you know how bad it hurts me to not want to talk to you? I had to tell her straight up, do you know how bad it hurt me to not want to talk to you? You have too much chaos and ******* confusion in your life for me to want to be around it. I'm at peace with my life. I'm content with what's going on in my life. I don't have a whole bunch of people in and out of my house. I'm not at that point in my life where I want to drink all the time. When we drink, it's mess and chaos and confusion. No, I'm at a point in my life where if we getting drunk, we out at the club, we turn in the **** up, and it's nothing but good vibes and fun. I'm at the point in my life we drink. We at my crib. We at your crib. We are ******* doing karaoke, and we doing fun ****. No. More are the days where I want to ******* drink and be around drama. If somebody start arguing because they're a little too lit, I like that ****. No, I don't want to be around that ****, because I'm at peace in my life. I don't want none of that negative energy in my ******* life. And I had to tell her that. You have to figure your **** out, boo. Like, I don't want to be around you. And every time I talk to you is some bullshit about some *****. And this is nothing. They know exactly who I'm talking about. If they ever listen to this, she already know I love her to death. Him. You take it how you take it. I'm just stating my opinion, baby. But I told her. I said, every time you call me, it's some bullshit that got to do with some *****. I don't want to hear that the happiest times I've ever or the best conversations I've ever had with you was a new job promotion or your daughter doing good in school or you know what I mean? Something with the family. I loved talking to her when it was nothing but good vibes. But, *****, I'm not about to keep calling you and talking to you all the time. And every time I call you, it's some bullshit about some *****. I don't give a ****. Kick him to the curb because there's no benefit from him being in your life. And like I said, if he ever listened to this, it is what it is. I would tell anybody this. If he was my friend and she wasn't, I would tell him the same ******* thing. Don't have anybody in your life that doesn't add nothing to it. Positively stand on it. Somebody is not making you happy, or somebody is causing chaos and a whole bunch of bullshit in your life. Cut them off and stand on it. Because think about it. Every time you double back to something, you cut off. Did it get better, or was it the same, okay? Did it get better, or was it the same, okay? I told her. I said, look, if you're going to make the decision to keep ******* with him and keep messing with them, do not call and complain about the decision that you ******* made my *****. Do not call me crying. Do not text me talking about like every time we talk about this, man, it is some ******* bullshit that he done did. You went through his phone. You didn't did this, you didn't did that. You know, every time you go through his phone, you're going to find what you're looking for, *****. So what decision are you making for real? What decision are you making for real? For real. You're making the decision to stay. So do not complain about your ******* decision. The main topic of that episode that I told her, happiness is a decision away. You just wake up or in that moment you decide, baby, what the **** is that? Hold on. You all excuse the disconnect. Back to what I was saying. I'm not going to lie. I'm recording this the day it drops. So I'm recording it today. I'm just going to record it and upload it, right? I thought I saw something at the corner of my eye and it blew my whole thought process. But back to what the **** we was talking about. So like I said, I told her, I said, you're making the decision to stay. You keep going through the *****'* phone and you keep finding what you're looking for. Why do you keep going through his phone if you keep finding the exact thing you went in there to look for? You found the confirmation, but what is this confirmation for? Because you're still staying. So why the **** go through his phone? Let that ***** do what he do. You do what you do if that's the type of relationship you're going to have, cool. But why is it always bullshit going on? Why is it always bullshit going on? Something just recently happened to her that for me would have been life changing. If a ***** did that to me, that would have changed my life. Because in a bad way for him and in a good way for me, I would have made the decision that day that I'm not putting up with no more bullshit. This is it. I'm not going to tell you what happened to her because that's her business. And I feel like once I start saying what happened, people know who I'm talking about. But period, something happened to her that I wish she made the decision that day to choose happiness and said, **** that. I've been dealing or I've been deciding to do too much bullshit in my life, ************. I'm choosing happiness from here to **** on out. And that is exactly I looked my friend right in her face and I told her, you are lost. I said, Where is the old so and so that used to be so happy and bubbly and didn't give a **** if people thought that they were annoying. You were just you and you were just happy and things were going good. However, now you're not happy most of the time I talk to you. I don't want to talk to somebody that's not happy. I'm happy. I bring good energy. And also, I want you all to know something. It is very straining on a friend when they call you and yeah, you all talk about **** that's going on. Girl, I'm not talking about **** like that. I'm talking about every time I call you. It's some real live bullshit. Oh, this ***** did this to me. Oh, this ***** did that. Oh, I found this. I don't want to hear that ****. I'm sorry. And if you wanted them females that you and your friend, all you all talk about is what the ****** in your life had like, what the ****? Talk about some real ****, mamas. I'm not talking about no ****** all day on the phone. I'm not we will not talk on the phone. I'm not talking on the phone. I mean, FaceTime, text messaging, anything. I'm not going back and forth with you about no ******, baby. I'm not talking any of my friends. We talk about some real ****. Like I said. Is the gossip sprinkled in there here or there? Hell yeah. We females, we just talk about, girl, let me tell you this, girl, that's normal. And I went to his phone and I saw and he's ******* with and I don't know what to do. And *****, you know what to do. You know to stay because that's what the **** you keep doing. So me, as your friend, I keep hearing you talk negatively about this man, but you keeping him around. So what else is there for me to say? I want you all to really understand that from a friend standpoint, what else do you want to hear? Or do you just want somebody to sit around and listen to you complain? I'm not that ******* friend. I will be a shoulder to cry on. And I'm that friend. If you call me and you really need me, it's some real life ****. I am the first ************ there. However, all this little bullshit, I don't put up with that in my life day to day. I don't. My friends will tell you, my people who know me personally, I'm like, Mama Sug, come to me. Ask me what you need to ask me. I give very good advice. However, I will cut you off and I will stop whatever you saying to let you know if this is going to keep being some bullshit, I don't want to hear about it no more. I already told you my opinion. I already told you what I think you should do. You didn't decide to listen to me. Fine. Because everybody is going to make their own decisions in life, right? But don't ask me for my mother ******* opinion and don't tell me about no bullshit. If you're just going to keep it the same. You're just going to keep it the same. What is the point really think about it. What is the point of telling somebody what you're going through in life if when they give you the advice that they think is appropriate for you and to try to get you to have things move more positively in your life, you ignore it, and then you call them again with the bullshit. What else am I supposed to ******* say? *****, I told you leave them alone or accept it. And also, I'm a real *** ******* friend, and I analyze every situation realistically. All right, *****, you keep finding him talking to ******* in his phone. Stand on the fact that you stand and stand on the fact that you go and do what you got to do to ******* make yourself happy. **** a lick back. What's going to make you happy? You still want this ***** in your life? Cool. Personally, I wouldn't do that. If a ***** keeps cheating on me or he keeps texting, *******, *****, go ahead. Let the flock have you. Because I'm a little delusional. Well, I wouldn't even call it delusional. In my head, I'm a queen. I'm a light. You want to go down? Get off of our thrones and go entertain peasants. Go the **** head, my *****. But I'm still going to sit on my throne, and I'm going to wait for the next king that's going to realize what the **** he got. You want to keep going back and forth with these *******, then that's fine. And also, you might get mad at me. You all might cancel me for this, for saying this, but this is some real ****. Let me move the mic over so the camera could see me. Some of y'all ******* who feel like and ******, this is for everybody. Some of y'all people that feel like somebody is what am I trying to say? You all feel like no one will ever **** with you as far as they know not to play with me. I'm number one. You will get a ******* reality check real fast. And the reason why I said that is because just now I said that I'm a queen. However, I'm a humble queen. And I know that I don't deserve some of the people that have come along in my life. They might have been too good for me because I didn't do the work with myself to be the queen that I am today. However, I've done the ******* work. So now, if a ***** wants to go play with sheep and he wants to be out there with the ******* who I don't give a ****, or if it's a *****, she want to be out there with the **** boys and the ****** who don't got **** going on for themselves, let them be. That's not a ******* loss. And I told my friend that. I told my friend that. I said, baby, if he wants to go and do? What he's going to do with these *******? Some of them is *** *** *******. Why the **** are you so mad? If you're the person who you think you are, you will let that ***** walk and say he lost one of the best things that ever happened to him. That's his loss. I don't give a ****. But you didn't do the work with yourself, boo. So you're willing to accept that he's doing this and he's doing that because he's doing it with all the same type of *****. You're the same type of *****. Nothing is going to change until you decide that it needs to change, and then until you do the work to change it. I had a very long conversation with her, very long conversation with her, and I just wanted to make sure that she understood. I love her to death. I wish the best for everything that she wants to pursue in life. And then I also had to remind her, *****, remember them conversations we was having about what to name this store and what to do with that when you open this, what you want to do. Remember those conversations that we had? *****, we haven't had a conversation about that **** for almost a ******* year. *****, you're lost. You lost yourself. Where is the ***** that wanted to open up? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, I'm not going to give you all details, *****, because then you all might figure out who I'm talking about, but you get what I'm saying? Where is she at? Where's that ambitious friend that I had that had ******* ideas for everything? Every day you calling me, texting me, saying, oh, I want to name it this or what you think I should name it? Or I want to do this service and that service where's that? Those were my favorite ******* conversations, *****. I don't want to hear about this ***** who ain't helping you pay bills. I don't want to hear about no ***** that you say ain't helping you do a ******* thing in the house but lay up and get ******. I don't want to hear about that. I don't want to hear about that. I don't want to hear about that, because that's not **** that's going on in my life. See, you all ******* like to have conversations with each other, and you all can go all day and hours talking about the same **** because you're going through the same ****. Her ***** ain't ****. Your ***** ain't ****. You all really sit around and talk about that like that **** is a whole last conversation for you all. No, I want to hear about the new job you got, how's work going? How's school going? How the kids going? What's going on with your car? This, this and that. I want to hear some real life ****. I don't want to hear no *******. Your boyfriend ain't ****. So I'm about to tell you how my boyfriend ain't ****. Like I said before, we're females and we're friends, so of course that's going to get sprinkled into the conversations. However, the intention to call me just to complain about a ******, do not do that. I will literally hang up on you. I don't want to talk about that. I will lie and say I'm on a meeting with my manager. I'll call you back. Now, the people who I really have said that to, I wasn't lying. I'm just saying, moving forward, I think I'm going to use that when I don't want to talk to nobody. Thus far, I haven't been lying, but I'm about to start telling you all that. But I got a meeting, even if it's a ******* Sunday afternoon, right? Like right now, I'm going to say I'm in a meeting with my manager. I'm just joking you all. But my main point is stand on something. Stand on something and don't let nobody stand on you because you all just getting walked all over. You all just letting ****** do whatever the **** they want to you. And you all just going along with the **** with it. And you all just don't see no value in yourselves. I'm not even going to lie. A lot of men are going to get mad at this, but females are more valuable than ever now. Females are more valuable than ever now. And you all just accepting, getting treated like **** for real. Listen, every boyfriend that I've had seriously has respected me, and I respected him. One thing a ***** is going to do is he's going to respect me, who I am, how I am. You get with me. And this is for anybody that wants to talk to me in the future or court me or date me. You might not like the fact that I cuss so much, but it tastes good, *****. So I'm a cusser. I'm sorry. That's how I grew up. Everybody. You get in a room full of my family, we all cuss. And we all yell, so this is just who I am. This is who I am. I cuss. But anyway, to any ***** that might want to date me in the future, you're going to have to come into this ***** knowing who the **** I am. And by that I mean you. Like I see you. I respect you, because I'm going to do the same thing with you. I'm going to see you, I'm going to respect you. And that's point blank period. And I think that's why I'm still single. Because to this day, I don't feel like anybody has really said, ****, she is like the dundada. The way I feel about myself is I'm the end all, be all *****. I am everything you've ever dreamed of, *****. So if you think that I'm going to settle for less than what the **** I deserve, knowing how willing I am to build with you. You think I'm going to sit around and settle for some bullshit? You texting other ******* and we going through this that no, we're not going through no little relationship bullshit. You coming into this ***** and we build in, and we taking off. You want to still play around with people and you still want to play this game, that's cool. But I'm at to let you go. You ain't coming along with me because I'm done with the games. No, actually, it's game time. It's game time. So it should be game over for that **** over there and game time over here on this real ****, baby. I'm trying to buy a house. I'm trying to have acres of land so that I can build. I want to ******* listen. I'm standing on the **** that I'm telling you all and the **** that I want to do in my life and provide for my daughter, I want to have a five bedroom house. Five bedroom, four and a half bathrooms, right? Because one of them could be a guest bathroom, and they can I mean, guest room and that can have its own blah, blah, blah. But I want a big *** house, and I want it to sit on about three acres of land because I want to build a ******* what is that, a go cart track? But not just for go carts. Like, if I have more kids in the future, my son or even if I don't have more kids, my nephew can ride his dirt bikes, or the kids can ride the go carts, and I'm going to have a trampoline. I'm going to have a pool. I'm going to have a ******* jungle gym, like a big *** play area. I want to do so much with my you know what I mean, moving forward in my life. So what the **** makes you think I want to do all of that **** in my life? But yet I'm going to deal with this little bullshit of ****** texting and ******* and all this other bullshit. *****, I don't give a **** about none of that. I digress you all. At the very end of the day, stand on something, mean it. Don't let nobody play with you. And I always tell everybody the same thing. No one is going to play with you. When you stop playing with you, somebody is only like, okay. For me, for example, right? It took a very long time for me to be as confident as I am. I had very low self esteem growing up. But one day I just looked at myself and I said, *****, you're funny. You can cook. I just started naming Mad Good great **** about myself. And I'm like, *****, I'm the ****. And ever since then, can't nobody tell me a ******* thing. I don't care how fat you call me. I don't care how you say, oh, that's why your. Stomach bigoting your butt. That's the only thing you could say about me, love. You can't call me broke. You can't call me a ho. Even if you did call somebody a ho, that's not really an insult to me. But you can't say **** about me, babe. You can't say a ******* thing. Maybe you could call me a *****, but that's because I stand on what I say. Like I said, I will retract something if I get new information. My opinion might change if new information is brought to the table. But most of the time, nine times out of ten, I said, what the ****? I said, it is what the **** it is, and what are we going to do about it? And when I say **** like that, it's not on no tough ****. It's not that I want to fight or anything like that. When I say I said what I said, it is what it is. What are you going to do about it? I'm really asking you, like, okay, so now that you have all the facts, now that this whole situation is somewhat done, what are you going to do? Are you mad? Do you want to talk about it further? We can do that. Are you mad? Do you want to fight? Why do you want to fight? Because you're mad about what I said? At the end of the day, after we fight, I still said what I said. After that, I still said what I said. So it's like I'm at a point in my life we're adults, and I'm standing on what I said. Now, if you hit me, then it is what it is. However, do I want to fight? No, but am I going to say what the **** I need to say? Yes. And also, I'm getting older, so I know that certain things don't need to be said. And there's a lot and for people who ******* know me, I talk a lot. Like, I literally have my opinion. For me, you all need to know when I have an opinion, I have an opinion. I won't just give you my opinion unsolicited, though, if it's none of my business, like, if I'm just randomly hearing people talk, I'm not about to sit around and be like, oh, well, I think no. Nine times out of ten, people ask me for my opinion. So that's when I give it, however I say it with the **** I say it. So don't ask me anything that you don't want the answer to. Don't ask me for my opinion if you feel like something I might say is going to **** you off, because I'll just keep it quiet. I'll keep it cute. I'll get on TikTok and watch ****. I don't need to ******* give you my opinion. Like, honestly, for people who know me, you all know I'll be saying some ****, but there is way worse **** that's in my head that I don't say that. I know not to say. Do you all know who the **** my dad is? My dad's mouth is the worst. My dad talks the most **** out of anybody I've ever met in my life, right? But the thing about my dad is my dad stands on it. He don't give a **** who you are. If he got something to say, if he got a joke, an opinion or whatever, he's going to say it. And I feel like that's where I get it from. And my mom is the same way, just not as extreme as my dad. Like my mom won't say no extreme **** like my dad do. Like one time we was chilling at my great grandma's house and my aunt and her husband were there and my dad just came out of nowhere. And I think to ask the husband like, don't, she be whooping your ***. Like just out of nowhere. Just out of nowhere. That's my dad, right? I'm not that type of person. But what I do get from my dad is I'm not scared to say what I have to say. That is one thing I could say. My dad taught me in life, don't be scared to say what you got to say. However, I had to look at him and think and realize that all right, *****, you saying everything that you got to say, even when it's unsolicited, even when it's not necessary, even if you know what I mean. It'll add more chaos and confusion and then it's not **** that somebody needs to hear like, oh, you're choosing your kids or you're choosing a ***** over your kids. It don't be **** like that. It'd be the **** that I just told you telling my aunt's husband that she'd be whooping his *** now dad, why the **** did you need to say that to that man? Y'all, I'm telling you all. They left and started arguing outside and by they I mean my aunt and my and her husband. My dad was in there cracking up and so was I. I was cracking up because they were mad as ****. And my dad just was sitting there drunk like so like my grandma was mad everything. My great grandma was just sitting there. She probably was like, wow, all of this came from me. I'm the matriarch and this is the bullshit going on around me. But I digress you all. Listen, the whole point of this sound off is just stand on something. Stand on something. Happiness is one decision away. Happiness is one decision away. You don't have to deal with a whole bunch of bullshit. You don't have to deal with a whole bunch of disrespect. Happiness is one decision away. You can wake up or you can think in the next 2 seconds I want to be happy. And whatever the **** happiness looks like to you, go ahead and do what you got to do to be happy. Now, that doesn't mean harm others and all that extreme ****. Because you all know, you all like to say, well, what if they want to do and that makes them happy? No, you all know exactly what the **** I'm saying. Let's not do this game. Happiness is one decision away. I wake up every day making the conscious decision to be happy. Some days I'm tried because it's real life. Real life should be happening. So am I happy every day? No. But what matters is every day I treat like a fresh start. I wake up every day and I say, today is going to be a good day. I'm going to be happy. Even if that day didn't pan out like that, I'm then going to bed that night still thinking the same thing tomorrow is going to be a good day. I'm going to be happy. Everybody says the same **** about me, that I'm funny, that I'm fun and I have good energy, and I am genuinely a good person. I'm not the nicest person. I don't like a lot of bullshit, chaos and confusion around me. I keep saying that. So if you're the type of person that has all that around you, I'm really not going to **** with you like that. Or I'm not going to give you the time of day, for real. I'm going to be in my lane, you stay in yours. That's one thing about me. If I don't like something that you're doing, I'm never going to ask you to change it unless you're my husband. Now, I ain't talking about that. But just as people, as human beings, if I'm in a situation with you, in a setting with you, I take everybody for who the **** they are the first time they show me. All right, you're allowed, ignorant *****. Cool. Sometimes I like being around loud, ignite ***** because I am a loud, ignite ***** myself. But I also like to be a quiet, minding my business *****. So some days I don't want to be around the loud, ignite *****. However, I would never tell you that because that doesn't matter for you, right? The fact that I don't want to be around you right now in this moment in my life, doesn't matter. I had to explain that also to my friend when I had that conversation with her. I said, I love you, but I'm never going to ask you to change what you do or who you are just so I can come back around. No, I'm just letting you know that the decisions that you are making in your life are pushing me or having me look at you like, I don't want to be a part of this. So the day you decide that you want happiness and you don't want no more chaos around you, that's when I'll come back around, because I don't want chaos around me. So I'm not asking you to change ****. And the whole point of that conversation was if you never in your life stop all the bullshit that goes on with these ****** or all this little drama with ******* because you might be ******* a ****** or something if you never stop that, I'm going to love you from a distance. I'm going to always love you. However, I'm not going to be around for it. Me and this ***** had this whole *** conversation, tears coming down. I don't even think we hugged, but we looked at each other dead at like the whole time I was talking to her. She wasn't looking at me, but I was looking at her. I was drilling a ******* hole in her head. And I told her that. I said, *****, I've been staring at you this whole time. I was looking at her like this the whole time, right? But I told her, I said, *****, we just had this whole last conversation, this deep *** session, this sister session, right? And when I'm done, you ask me, and I just made it. The whole point of that whole thing was, I want you to find happiness. I'm going to love you from a distance because it's too much chaos and confusion going on in your life, right? So the whole point of that session was that, right? Why the **** this ***** fix her lips to ask me to stay at her house while she left and did some bullshit and while her ****** had left to do some bullshit, but if he happened to come back before she get back, she want me to stay at the house. I looked at her, I said, *****, I'm going home. Didn't I just have a whole ************* conversation with you about I don't want to be around chaos and confusion? I don't want to be around it? *****, you asking me to be in it. You want me to be the ******* dumb *** sitting on this couch when he show up and ask, where are you at? Where the **** am I going to tell him you at? At **** near 12:00 at night. Went to the ******* store. I'm the one with the car. I'm going to tell him. I'm going to look him straight in his ******* face like it makes sense and tell him, oh, yeah, she left. She went to the store. Mind you, my car is sitting outside. She don't have a car. So what the ****? *****, I asked you not to involve me in the chaos. I say I don't want to be around the chaos and the confusion. However, you asked me to put myself smack dab in the middle of the bush. I said, *****, I love you. I'm going home. I just said that. I said, I love you and I'm going home. I need you to figure your **** out. I'm not going to lie. I didn't get mad at her at the time. But that made me really look at her like, *****, you are really lost. The fact that we just had this whole conversation, and I felt like you really listened with your heart and your brain on what I was saying to you. And yet after that, immediately after that, you open your mouth about somebody else's situation that you think is fishy to my outside looking in. All right, cool. We all do that, right? But then after that, you telling me you about to go do this and do that, and if so and so come back, I need to be here so that, *****, I'm going home. I don't got no ***** I got to answer to. I could leave and go see a man about a horse and don't got to worry about, oh, if he come back. No, I can go see a man about a horse and ride it okay. I don't got to worry about that. I can go to Walmart with a ******, and I don't got to hide. I can go out with a ******. I don't got to hide. I don't have that in my life. So why would I put myself intentionally in that bullshit? And I told her, I said, all the ******* friends you got around you, ain't none of them. Your real ******* friends. I said, Because I guarantee you ain't none of them talk to you like this. And ain't none of them look you dead in your ******* face and tell you you lost, *****. And you got a lot of chaos and confusion in your ******* life. None of them. You need friends. You ***** need friends like that friends that you just always want to drink with. And you're not supposed to hang around them all the time. You're supposed to have them be a weekend friend. ************. You decide to make some of these ******* your everyday friends. And I said some. Because there's one if she listened to this, she noticed she good people. I told her. I said, you have turn up friends. You have turn up friends. And that's cool. We all got turn up friends. But where the ******* ******* that's going to look you in your eye and say every time you get good on your feet, you and your baby doing good, you bring in a ******* stray and whatever fleas they come with into your house and then it's a whole bunch of chaos and confusion until you kick them out or they leave. Then your life is at peace. And then here we go with another ******* stray. I said, *****, I was like, People are going to be your downfall. I don't give a **** what anybody got to say about me. If me bringing you into my home is going to make my home, is going to stress my daughter out or a whole bunch of your baby dad baby mom bullshit is going to be brought to my ******* front door, *****. You can't come here. You can't come here. I'll be damned if I let one of my friends ******* stay with me for a little bit till they get back on their feet and they baby dad kick my ******* door in, *****. I'm going to jail. And as a matter of fact, I'm so ******* smart and I know the laws. I'm not going to jail. But you'll be hooked. And you'll be in jail because I'm a self defense. It up around this *****. But best believe anything like that ever happened or I'm not even going to say anything like that. That will never happen if I let somebody stay with me. You will not bring your chaos and your confusion to my home, especially because my daughter lives here with me. This is me and my daughter's home. So if my daughter is ever in a situation like bullshit because of something that you got going on, *****, you got to go and we might have to ******* fight. Why the **** did your baby dad kick my door in while my daughter's here? Then they're going to lost his ******* mind and I'm about to lose mine. I will lock my daughter in her room, and I will lock the **** in. I will lock my daughter in her room, and I will lock the **** in. We are going to be out this ***** fighting. You kick my door in while my daughter's here. Please do it. Please. I've been waiting to lose my mind. I've been waiting to lose my mind. Please come to my house and kick my door in while my daughter's here. I've been waiting to lose my mind. But I'm just being funny. You all. Psych. I just said all that to say because I'm done talking about this for real. She knows I love her if she ever listens to this. I know this is going to sting you. I love you though, and I'm talking directly to you. You know who I'm talking to. What I said stung and I know what I said in this podcast stung a little bit more. However, you know I love you and you know it's coming from a place of I want to see you do better. But you lost, *****. And none of the ******* around you right now currently are letting you know that you lost. And that's not to say they didn't try to have a conversation with you or nothing like that, but just personally, from what I'm seeing, you all just turn up friends and ain't no real ****. I had to tell you some real **** because I really, truly care about you. You are like my sister. And to see my little sister be lost in the sauce like that ******* hurts me. And it hurts me even more for my sister not to stand on something and not to realize who the **** she is. *****, you work so ******* hard. Like, you are one of my friends that I always say, yo, that ***** will work. That ***** goes to work. You could have so much in life, so much, so much. But yet these ******, these ****** and you just wanting to turn up and drink and ****, that is going to be your downfall. And that is your downfall. You need to look around. I told that *****. I said, you need to wake up one day, because now I'm talking to you all again. I told that *****, I said, you need to wake up one day, look around and say, I just want to be happy. And whatever the **** happiness looks like, make the moves to do that. But right now, you just want to have fun or you just want to do this. You just want to be drunk. Why do you always want to be ******* drunk? Why? What are you trying to escape? Deal with that ****. For real. And if dealing with that means you got to go to therapy, go to ******* therapy, my *****. Nobody is going to judge you for going to therapy. I actually applaud people who make the decision to go to therapy because you are identifying a problem that you want to fix. Go to ******* therapy, my *****. Like, figure out and this is for everybody. This just ain't for my friend. This is for all of you. Figure out why the **** you cannot be sober. Figure out why you can't sit with you. A lot of you all love to have company and love to go out and love to do this and can never just sit in the house and be with yourself. Figure out why the **** you can't deal with you, what is wrong. Like, literally, and I'm not saying this to be smart. I'm being genuine. Figure out what is wrong with you that you can't stand and that you can't be around or you cannot deal with being sober. Why do you always have to drink? Why do you always have to smoke? Why you always got to pop a perk? Why you always got to take Adderall? You get what I'm saying? I know in the moment, it's like, *****, because I want to feel good. But why do you want to feel good? What are you escaping? For real? For real. Why can't you like, you know how people say no, matter of fact, I'm going to say this. I appreciate those people that do drugs when they go out and tell you, I did a line of coke when I went out because I know that I'm about to turn the **** up. They're real with the situation. They know that before said coke, yes, I'm having fun, but I want to have more fun. Okay? Like the party time. Drug addicts are the best kind because they will admit, *****, I did some coke because I wanted to have fun. But I'm talking to the people who just on a day to day, they have to consume a substance or whatever to make them feel better, to alter their state of mind, to alter their state of mind, to make them feel better. You're escaping something, my love. You have to figure out what that is that you're escaping, and you got to face that **** head on. And some days you might lose when you're really trying to look inside yourself and change and figure out certain things about yourself, some days you are going to lose that battle. You are going to be like, ****, I can't, blah, blah, blah. There's going to be a lot of I can't, and there's going to be a lot of defeats. However, those are just the battles you're losing. You will win the war. And I'm telling you this from a deep, personal place in me. I've done the work with myself, and I ask myself, why the **** are you the way you are? And I'm still doing the work to this day. Why are you the way you are? Why do you talk the way you talk? Why do you think the way you think? You all really got to think that **** goes back to your ******* childhood most of the time. Like, you all, I own some real ****. There's a certain respect that men have to literally earn from me because of how my stepdad treated me growing up or how I saw my stepdad interact with my mom growing up. I knew that that was not a real representation of how a man is supposed to treat a woman, treat his stepchildren, be in the household, none of that. I knew that. So me growing up and also the way he treated me growing up. So now in my adult life, a man has to earn respect from me. And listen, my dad might get mad if he hear this, but my dad has lied to me so much in my life that I don't believe **** anybody says to me until I see proof. There was so many times growing up where my dad was like, and this is all over the ******* place. You all just sitting here listening to me now. What's that? But there are so many times in my life where my dad said that he bought something for me. And then when I go to his house, I'm so excited to see it. And he's like, oh, I had to take it back or, oh, I didn't get it. So why the **** did you tell me you got it? There's a whole bunch of times when my dad said he would come and get me, never came and got me. And he'll always blame my mom for something like that. Really ****** me up in life. For real. You all, I do not believe **** anyone says. You have to prove to me that what you're saying is the truth. I don't believe a ******* thing anybody says. I'm all about action. I met a potential suitor last year, and he told me, like, well, I trust people off that. You got to do something to make me not trust you. And I said, I mean, I can understand that you're looking at it from the whole opposite side of how I'm looking at it. I don't trust you until you show me I can trust you. I said, there's nothing wrong with either way. I was like, It's not like I disrespect people. I just don't believe **** you're saying until I see it for myself. And honestly, I feel like that's how everybody should be, because people lie so much and people don't, or I won't even say lies. Sometimes people don't remember the facts, all of the facts, right? So somebody will tell you something, you believe it, but they left out really big pieces of information that matter to the story or to the situation. And now you just trust in every ******* thing they just told you. And now you out here looking like an *** because you informed an opinion off of half of the information. I don't trust ****. I need to know everything. I need to see everything. I need to see the paperwork. I need to see the phone calls, text messages, the pictures, the videos. I need to see everything. I need to see the facts. I need to see the car fax. But I digress you all. I've had fun. You already know this is dropping today. I recorded it live. I have 1 hour to edit this, so let me get this up to you all. I love you all. Thank you for tuning into the Nissan Sugar podcast. As always, I am your host, Sugar NA. And what do we say? It's good, but it needs some sugar. Make sure to follow the instagram that's suggahpodcast at Sugar podcast. 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